if yr gonna stop being a fan of marina because she’s done bad feminist things but then keep being a fan of gareth campesinos and andrew jackson jihad and panic at the disco and all the other white male fronted bands/artists even though they’ve been Considerably Worse u need to think about exactly why you’re ok with them getting away with it and not marina

like yes critique marina. critique the shit out of marina, and miley, and particularly lana, because they have said and done shit that hurts women/queer women/black women and they NEED to change. ALWAYS CRITIQUE WHITE ARTISTS, because ALL white artists are on another fucking plane of entitlement.

but like

when’s the last time you’ve seen yourfaveisproblematic slam a white singer. why are you more prone to shrug off misogyny and entitlement in cutest pootsy indie songs written by white dudes with beards. why do you just sorta pretend you dont see it when ur fave boy calls someone a cunt on twitter. cmon now.

ok but instead of “““““bromance“““““ you could just say friendship

I think the term is fine. Because a bromance and a friendship are two different things. As long as we don’t confine ourselves to using the term “Bromance” for only men, and use it to mean a deep, meaningful, platonic relationship between people of any gender

as a queer woman i would like to say, please, for the love of everything, do not start using “““““bromance“““““ for female friendship

i think friendship can mean “a deep, meaningful, platonic relationship between people of any gender“, whereas “““““bromance“““““ screams heterosexism to me

"Bromance" is such an unnecessary term and basically means "men’s relationships with other men are more special than relationships involving other genders… but no homo!!".

It’s a queerbaiting joke in one word, really, flirting with the idea that these dudes whose relationship is too deep and meaningful to be called “friendship” might feel something romantic for each other, but makes sure to deny there could be anything romantic actually going on by combining it with a familial term. Not a mystery why a term like this is considered necessary specifically for a same-gender relationship.

Using “bromance” for deep, meaningful, platonic relationships of women and nonbinary people, too, still has the same shitty implications as the term being specifically for men, since the “bro” as in “brother” is pretty obviously gendered. “Your friendship is so deep and meaningful it’s like a men’s friendship”. It’s like when dudes ~compliment~ me by saying I do something “like a man”. Using it as if it’s gender-neutral is treating men as the default.

send me two characters and i’ll tell u which one i’d rather smooch

when someone younger than you disrespects you