ironically, enforcing the idea that Youre Only Gay And Trans If You Cant Stop Thinking About It only further reinforces the idea that being cishet IS the default, IS the norm, that if you dont feel REALLY REALLY OVERWHELMINGLY not cishet you cant be queer or trans and its like, that way of thinking, that “exclusive club” mentality aint helpin nobody

society is VERY GOOD at making you feel like you arent queer or trans because a) it doesnt tell you about these identities in depth in the first place and b) it encourages you NOT to be gay or trans at all costs, so its no wonder so many people either bury any queer/trans feelings they might have (like I did) or just not even…realize these things about themselves because theres nothing for them to identify with since we are taught from pre-birth to be straight and cis

Send a number + a character and I’ll draw them:

1. In what they normally wear
2. In what I’m currently wearing
3. In a school uniform
4. In swimwear
5. In underwear
6. With no clothes on
7. In winter clothes
8. In fancy clothes
9. Making 3 different expressions
10. Standing on their hands
11. With their favorite animal
12. Hanging out with a friend
13. Sitting on the couch
14. Doing something they don’t normally do
15. Eating
16. Playing a sport
17. Beaten up
18. As a kid/adult
19. Wearing a funny hat
20. Sleeping

"why be straight and cis when u can be queer and tr-"

hi lets not treat lgbtq+ identities like fashion trends

uh, i feel like those types of posts are more suggesting people explore their identities rather than just sticking to a socially enforced norm? dont make transness this Exclusive Club… this makes people scared to explore their identities. like, come on. let people test other orientations out. let them try things on. if they dont like it they can go back to being straight and cis but dont discourage experimentation 

Ive gone more in depth with this before but; I also feel like op’s thinking is enforcing the idea that sexual identity, gender identity, sexual orientation, etc dont exist on a spectrum, which they do. Some people (Im using myself as an example) learned to convince themselves that their queerness was invalid, that they were cis because “what other way is there to even be?”. If I hadnt been around my queer and trans friends and if I had felt like, since I dont feel like “I was born in the wrong body” (hate that idea btw) I must not be trans even though I dont feel 100% cis now that I know what cis and trans are. I always thought that since I was attracted to men as well as women that my queerness was invalid because the idea that..your Gay Thoughts Are All You Think About If Youre Really Gay makes bi/pan people feel REALLY confused. If we dont encourage everyone to explore these facets of themselves how can we ever hope to normalize transness and queerness?

yeah basically not everyone just “knows”“ theyre not cishet from birth like thats a requirement or something. ive known several people – myself included – who had to experiment with their gender/sexual orientations before they really came to understand themselves (i went through at least three different gender/sexual /romantic identity combinations before i really knew what i liked and was comfortable with being called). not everyone is hit in the face w the fact that theyre not cishet out of nowhere, sometimes you have to explore yourself a lot before it happens

• do not ever ever compare jews or a jewish person to vermin. i don’t care what the context is. it is an incredibly historically loaded thing
• do not under any circumstances alter our magen david or call it something dirty or awful. it is a symbol of all jews, and if you call it something like “satanic”, you are hurting all jews
• do not insert israel or palestine in conversations about jewishness or jews when it has nothing to do with either subject
• do not think knowing a jew gives you authority on anything. having a jewish SO or friend gives you authority on nothing
• do not think that your country does not have an antisemitism problem. few countries have their hands clean. 
• do not think that antisemitism is isolated to one region or one people
• do not think that antisemitism today is harmless or dead or a “political tool”
• do not ever source nazi/neonazi material for any of your social justice work. i don’t care how “spot on they are for this one issue”, if you do that, you are trash and your social activism is trash too.
• do not celebrate our holidays because you think it would be a fun thing to do. would you think it’s fun or interesting to walk into a synagogue surrounded by cops on yom kippur, weak from fasting, knowing that your chances of experiencing violence on this holy day have increased a hundredfold because of your jewishness? 
• do not ever speak over a jew on jewish identity. 
• do not erase or ignore our suffering
• do not call our genocide a white people’s genocide
• do not use our genocide against us. genocide is never a lesson for the victim
• do not forget the various genocides and suffering of jews outside of europe and the holocaust. 
• do not forget that we are as subject to various -isms as gentiles. your social activism is not intersectional if you forget jews. 
• do not forget the jewish history of various social movements
• do not forget that we are a varied people—jews are never a monolith. 

i dont think there is a single country that has its hands clean tbh

The most important advice that I can offer to tourists in America is firstly don’t confuse Kansas with Arkansas, but secondly and perhaps more importantly don’t confuse Arkansas with Ur-Kansas, The State That Is Concealed Behind The Veil Of The World