Originally I was just going to stick to the tags, but I changed my mind.
For REAL. So much of the marginalization queer people face is due to the choice of partner not so much the method of sex. Asexual visibility is important, but if your idea of ace is just “hetero/homoromantic person who doesn’t want sex” then you’re MISSING SO MUCH OF THE POINT.
Where’s the visibility for the people constantly dodging their parents’ questions about “Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend yet?” Where’s the visibility for people who are afraid of friendships with guys/girls because they’ve seen these friendships turn romantic and felt utterly trapped? Where’s the visibility for people BOMBARDED with love stories in every facet of the media, always feeling like it’s some big secret that no one will let them in on?
Where’s the visibility for people who are terrified of growing up to be lonely and isolated, being seen as and feeling like a loser for never finding their “other half”? Where’s that representation?! I like the idea of sex—therefore I’m not asexual—but all of the above are issues I think about every day of my life.
If you’re not actively considering aro and aroace people in your support of asexual visibility, then you’re not supporting asexual visibility. I’m tired of seeing something so vital get so wholly erased.
